Thursday, 26 January 2012

Are You Living Your Own Dream or Someone Else’s?

Many people drift through life without a plan. For some, things work out fine. For most, they end up far from their intended destination. Others, end up living someone else’s dream, the victim of another agenda. This almost happened to a Mexican fisherman in a story told by Tim Ferriss in The 4-Hour Work Week.
An American businessman took a vacation to a small coastal Mexican village on doctor’s orders. Unable to sleep after an urgent phone call from the office the first morning, he walked out to the pier to clear his head. A small boat with just one fisherman had docked, and inside the boat were several large yellow fin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish.
“How long did it take you to catch them?” the American asked.
“Only a little while,” the Mexican replied in surprisingly good English.
“Why don’t you stay out longer and catch more fish?” the American then asked.
“I have enough to support my family and give a few to friends,” the Mexican said as he unloaded them into a basket.
“But … What do you do with the rest of your time?”
The Mexican looked up and smiled. “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take a siesta with my wife, Julia, and stroll into the village each evening, where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life, señor.”
The American laughed and stood tall. “Sir, I’m a Harvard M.B.A. and can help you. You should spend more time fishing, and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. In no time, you could buy several boats with the increased haul. Eventually, you would have a fleet of fishing boats.”
He continued, “Instead of selling your catch to a middleman, you would sell directly to the consumers, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing, and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village, of course, and move to Mexico City, then to Los Angeles, and eventually New York City, where you could run your expanding enterprise with proper management.”
The Mexican fisherman asked, “But, señor, how long will all this take?”
To which the American replied, “15–20 years. 25 tops.”
“But what then, señor?”
The American laughed and said, “That’s the best part. When the time is right, you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich. You would make millions.”
“Millions, señor? Then what?”
“Then you would retire and move to a small coastal fishing village, where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take a siesta with your wife, and stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos …”
The only thing worse than drifting without a plan is having your plans hijacked by someone else.
You can avoid this unfortunate end and make sure you are fulfilling your unique, God-given calling by answering these three questions:
Am I living my own dream or someone else’s? If we are not careful, we can unconsciously be following someone else’s agenda for our lives. This usually happens because we are unwilling to take responsibility for our own lives.
What is my dream? This can get lost in the complexity of life. As a result, we need to pause and remember our own agenda. What is it that we believe God is calling us to be and to do? What is our passion? What would we do if we were brave?
What can I do now to move in the direction of my dream? The only way to reclaim our dream is to reject all substitutes and begin moving in the direction of our dreams. We don’t have to do anything heroic. We can start small and take baby steps. The issue is to make sure we are making progress toward our goals.
Don’t spend your life fulfilling someone else’s agenda. Accept responsibility for your own life. Pursue your goals and live your dream. Live an intentional life.
Question for thought: Has your life ever been hijacked by someone else’s agenda? You can leave a comment.

Wednesday, 25 January 2012


there's nothing much to say..............this picture says it ALL......

Friday, 20 January 2012

A lot of relationships esp marriages fail because of the distance the couples allow between them…At times, it seems like the one outside is better than the one we have at home(you know that girl who smiles at you at work, that man who compliments you everyday, that lady who helped adjust your tie in the office, that man who asked you why you're looking sad in the taxi etc)…lets avoid undue closeness because it brings about assumed love. WHY HANG OUT WITH SOMEONE YOU CAN'T SHOW TO YOUR PARTNER? WHY BECOME INVOLVED WITH A PERSON WHO YOU ARE HIDING FROM YOUR PARTNER IF YOU ARE JUST MERE FRIENDS? 

Men and Women both face temptations everyday… Its very important to always come back at the end of the day to remind yourselves of why you are together so that little niceties/concern/gestures from unassuming outsiders dont pull you apart.

Communication breakdown in any relationship can destroy it completely. There's nothing that CAN'T be settled through communication & the involvement of your creator. Love, cherish and communicate to your partner always.

(everything written is originated by the host. feel free to share to others. credit is given to dreamtimes for the photograph used)

Thursday, 19 January 2012

#photo of the day

Afang Soup....*

Real Women Overcome Odds

Oftentimes, we let little things get to us. Even something as simple as bad rush-hour traffic or a missed appointment can ruin our day. It's these times that we need to hear inspirational tales that help us learn to appreciate life. Here, in the following weeks, we’ll feature stories and articles that inspire real women to overcome real obstacles and embrace everything life has to offer.
At some point in a woman's life, there comes an event or a moment that tests her - who she is, who she wants to be, where she will go next or what she's made of.
She has to decide whether to get up, dust herself off and keep going. She has to choose between keeping quiet or speaking up. She has to work through heartache. She has to do what she knows is right, no matter the consequences. She has to choose to lead. Or she has to take a chance.
If everything is smooth sailing right from the beginning, we cannot become people of substance and character. By surmounting paining setbacks and obstacles, we can create a brilliant history of triumph that will shine forever. That is what makes life so exciting and enjoyable. In any field of endeavour, those who overcome hardships and grow as human beings are advancing towards success and victory in life.
-- Daisaku Ikeda
Someday is not a day of the week.
If you want to make an easy job seem mighty hard, just keep putting off doing it.   
The best way to get something done is to begin.
Never put off until tomorrow what you can do the day after tomorrow.
Tomorrow is the only day in the year that appeals to a lazy man.
A year from now you may wish you had started today.
Procrastination is like masturbation.  At first it feels good, but in the end you're only screwing yourself.  
One of these days is none of these days, so GET TO WORK AND STOP PROCRASTINATING!

Saturday, 14 January 2012

Hook 'n Needle Creations: 2012 To Do List

Hook 'n Needle Creations: 2012 To Do List: Hi everyone!! I've joined  2012 NewFO Challenge at Cat Patches.  There is no better way to motivate myself to achieve my goal (to use up a...

Friday, 13 January 2012

Face difficulties positively

This parable is told of a farmer who owned an old mule. The mule fell into the farmer’s well. The farmer heard the mule praying or whatever mules do when they fall into wells. After carefully assessing the situation, the farmer sympathized with the mule, but decided that neither the mule nor the well was worth the trouble of saving. Instead, he called his neighbors together, told them what had happened, and enlisted them to help haul dirt to bury the old mule in the well and put him out of his misery.
Initially the old mule was hysterical! But as the farmer and his neighbors continued shoveling and the dirt hit his back, a thought struck him. It suddenly dawned on him that every time a shovel load of dirt landed on his back, HE WOULD SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP!
This he did, blow after blow. “Shake it off and step up…shake it off and step up…shake it off and step up!” He repeated to encourage himself. No matter how painful the blows, or how distressing the situation seemed, the old mule fought panic and just kept right on SHAKING IT OFF AND STEPPING UP!


You have met people who literally wander through life. They simply accept whatever fate brings them. A few may succeed by accident, but most suffer through lifetime of frustration and unhappiness.
This blog is not for them. They have neither the determination to succeed nor the willingness to devote the time and effort necessary to achieve success.
This blog is for you my reader hoping to live a richer, much more fulfilling life than you have now by establishing new goals, developing a new sense of purpose, and generating new ideas about yourself and your future. Please as you do, share those with us on this page.